FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS: FOR GRIEVERS

I've lost someone I love and no one seems to get it. Can I call you?

Let me start by saying I am so sorry for your loss. While I'm flattered that you'd like to speak with me, there are many wonderful resources that will serve you much better!  I believe in the benefits of therapy and grief counseling, and I encourage you to look in your community for support. Many local religious organizations are also a great place to seek help and guidance in finding grief support.  I wish you continued healing in your grief journey!

I'm not a writer but I feel like writing may help with my grief process. I don't know where to start.

I totally understand this. For me, writing is what saved me and I think that would have been the case even if I wasn't a writer. But if you're interested in exploring the benefits of healing through writing, please contact me here for some more information on my guided writing workshop.

When will I be done grieving?

I wish I had an answer for you but I have found that grief has its own timeline and that it's different for everyone.  I'm not sure that one is ever really done grieving, but I have found that time is a miraculous healer.

Can I join your wister group?

My wister group no longer meets regularly. I encourage you to find a grief support group in your area - there is comfort in community! 

Can you come talk to my widow group next time you're in the area?

I appreciate your interest and I find it very bittersweet that Widowish is considered one of the best books for widows. Please join my mailing list and send any speaking requests through the form on my contact page. 

Other than Widowish, are there any books about grief that you suggest I read?

I mention Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief by Martha Whitmore Hickman in my memoir. I found that incredibly helpful and easy to manage. I also loved Claire Bidwell Smith's After This: When Life Is Over, Where Do We Go? But there are many wonderful books about grief that can easily be found via a Google or Amazon search. If you've read Widowish, you also know that I found support in unexpected ways. I encourage being open to finding a healthy outlet to ease the pain of grief, even if it doesn't meet the traditional expectations of healing.